A detailed look at controlling and coercive behaviour - F v M [2021] EWFC 4
The judgement handed down in the case of F v M [2021] EWFC 4, by His Honourable Justice Hayden does not make for easy reading. It is grim and shocking in equal measure, yet it is intricate, and very important, particularly for family lawyers and professionals working within the sphere of family law. HHJ Hayden emphasised ‘it is crucial.. that key to this particular form of domestic abuse is an appreciation that it requires an evaluation of a pattern of behaviour in which the significance of isolated incidents can only truly be understood in the context of a much wider picture.’ [60].
This case looks at two women - and one man (“F”). The first victim’s (“W”’s) relationship with F started when they were young, at university - and for the second victim (“Ms J”) it occurred when she was in her mid-forties with life experience behind her, an established career, resident children whom she loved and what one might describe as a sensible head on her shoulders.
The pattern of F’s behaviour was calculated and controlling, emotionally, psychologically, and financially. The speed at which the F took control of both victim’s lives and secure marriage, is quite remarkable. He was able to convince some professionals that it was he who was the victim, using charged language as a significant tool. W managed to escape him after several years, and significant trauma. This case relates to the F’s application for contact with his two children born from that relationship.
The second victim, Ms J, sadly remains lost to F’s ways but it is hoped this will change in the future and she will come back to those who love and wish to support her.
The level of manipulation from F on not only his partners, but their families is disturbing, and ongoing. This case illustrates the dark realities of the cunning and manipulative nature of coercive and controlling behaviour, and the impact on the victim.
Read the full judgement here F v M [2021] EWFC 4 (15 January 2021) (bailii.org)
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18.01.2021